This principle might seem at odds with the previous one, “Object to that which affects you or your loved ones adversely.” I would argue that this principle is a caveat to the previous statement. Object to that which affects you or your loved ones adversely, but don’t waste your energy fighting for no reason. The controversy around the recent overturning of Roe v. Wade is a prime example of what I’m talking about. (Apologies if my latest posts have seemed fixated on this topic. It’s one I feel passionately about.) This is absolutely something we should be objecting to. Thousands of people are going to be adversely affected by this ruling, and none of us should take it sitting down. However, we need to pick our battles wisely. There are certain people who will drain us of the energy we need to fight, whether they are doing it on purpose or not. It is essential that we do what we can to avoid engaging with them and instead focus our energy on taking the necessary actions to get people who will consider our needs in positions to do so.
This means Facebook feuds should be avoided. I said in a previous post that social media is an important forum to participate in, but there is a difference between a healthy debate with an intelligent and compassionate human being and a senseless argument with a brainwashed troll. A healthy debate features concessions and respect for the other party – the purpose is to understand another point of view so common ground can be reached. There is no common ground to be had in a pointless argument. Neither party is willing to concede any point because each are convinced of their own rightness, and, in many cases, of their own moral superiority. Unless you like stirring dram – or exposing people as hypocrites or ignorant – commenting on your ultra-conservative Christian auntie’s “Abortion is Murder” Facebook post serves no real purpose except to expend energy that could be used to enact actual change or protect your loved ones who will be badly hurt by this decision.